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34. Will this sailing adventure turn me into a dreadlocked, pot smoking, whale saver?

Sailing Adventure

One week from now I’ll be on a plane with my husband, daughter, and cousin heading for Gibraltar to start our sailing adventure. We’ll be leaving England for an indefinite amount of time – who know’s when we’ll be back? We’ll also be leaving behind my 3 – 4 trips per a year back home to see family in Rochester, NY, and Cary, NC.

What else will we be leaving? We’ll be leaving our dear UK based friends and family, our routines, our comforts, and our day to day life. We’ll be leaving everything that we’re used to. The quick walk over to the grocery store, 800 TV channels, non-stop Internet access, mobile phone, and the normal drama of our lives.

But where are we headed? What are we going to?

I’m hoping that we’re headed for a completely new lifestyle. We’re not just changing homes or moving to another location – we’re embarking on a journey that includes bringing our home with us and seeing the world! How incredible is that?

How do I feel about this sailing adventure?

Lately I’ve been really questioning myself as to why I’m so afraid to sail around the world. Actually, I’ve known this for quite some time but it’s hard to be open about your own faults – isn’t it? Or perhaps I can admit my faults but then it’s difficult to do something about them? Well…I’m getting tired of feeling scared all the time. I want to do something about this particular fault but I have a funny feeling that time will change everything.

One of my many weaknesses, aside from a lack of patience, is my uncontrollable need to try and control everything. Yes, I am a control freak. Although I love the concept of going with the flow, I don’t subscribe to its true meaning. Rather, I work to control the size, width, depth, length, terrain, and the tide of the flow – once I feel that there’s some level of control, I jump in and ‘go with the flow.’

I couldn’t just jump into an unknown river and float along

But that is precisely what I’m doing with this sell up and sail away adventure. And I’m not just jumping into a river, I’m jumping into an Ocean. An ocean that has the power to send me lovingly into a sunset or alternatively, spinning and crashing into a thousand pieces.

Rather than take calculated risks, stay safe, remain in the job, keep the same lifestyle, save your pennies for a rainy day, don’t rock the boat, wait for the right moment or live with the devil I do know, I’m throwing that all away.

I’m taking a huge risk, I won’t be as safe as I’m accustomed to, I’m not remaining in the job, I’m completely changing my lifestyle, I’m spending all my pennies, I’m rocking the boat, there is never a right moment so now it has to be. Furthermore, I’m sick and tired of the devil I know!

What do I have to lose?

My life. But I suppose if that goes I won’t really care too much. I could lose a family member. That would be devastating but I could just as well lose a family member living my ‘normal’ life. In fact, I bet it’s riskier to live on land and drive every day than it is to live on a boat and sail every day.

I could lose my dignity – the whole adventure could turn out to be a dud and I have to crawl back to England, find a job, and feel like a loser for the rest of my life. Somehow I don’t think that will happen.

I could lose my attempted control over life…hmmmmm. Now that’s a doozie. Perhaps I need to ask a better question so as to change my spiraling thought-train of doom?

What do I have to gain?

You see, that’s the question that I don’t have an answer to – no control. That is what I’m here to find out. What will I gain? Will I gain a better attitude to life? Will I gain more patience? Will I find more peace? Will I gain more of an understanding as to what life really is about?

When you meet a new lover, you know what your potential gains are. When you get a new job, again, you can speculate your gains. When you live the ‘normal’ life that society advocates: school, university, marriage, babies, job, retirement, death, you generally know where you’re heading and what to expect.

But what about a drastic change in lifestyle? Yes, I can speculate that I’ll change, but I don’t know what I’m going to change to. I don’t know what I don’t know…and I’m diving off a cliff here. This isn’t a slow approach. One day I live in a house on the land, surrounded by convenience, TV, technology, a very safe savings account, and friends/family. The next day, I will live on a boat, surrounded by the sea with very little convenience, no TV, little technology, draining down my life savings at a very far distance from my social network.

I can’t control my environment (yet). Perhaps that’s the issue? And that’s why I mentioned that time might play a huge factor in all this. Once I am on the boat and I fully understand the lay of the land or sea, I can then try once again to control things.

But I don’t want to control anything anymore!

And that’s why I think I’m doing what I’m doing. I don’t want to have this need to control anything anymore. I truly want to go with the flow. I want to stop thinking, analyzing, and speculating and instead I want to be in the moment as much as possible. I don’t want to worry. I don’t want to fill my head up with all the things that could be wrong. I just don’t want to fill my head up with anything other than what’s in front of me – for the most part.

So, watch this space

We all know that this 3 – 5-year sailing adventure is going to change me and change the family. But what will we change to? In 2 years’ time I might have dreadlocks, smoke pot, preach about saving the whales and feel at peace with everything. Who knows?!

Next Chapter: 35. In 2 days we will set sail around the world sailing adventure

Previous Chapter: 33. Ten days to go before we set sail on our grand adventure

Or…if you’d like to carry on reading all about our journey from selling up and sailing away, you can purchase my book, ‘Changing Lifestyles – Trading the Rat Race in For A Sail Around The World,’ 

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"Interested in The Sailing Lifestyle? Are your needing just one more reason to change your life for the better, Just buy this book. I actually bought this for my wife(Workaholic) last year. It was the deciding factor for us to change things 😉 , After she read Kim's Book & we watched a few episodes of Sailing Britican (& a few others) we realized there is more to life than the rat race.....!
Thanks." Jon D.
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Changing Lifestyles: Trading in the Rat Race for a Sail Around The World (my book). Chapters:

  • 1. That’s it – I’m selling everything and sailing around the world!

  • 2. Oh crap – Are we healthy enough to sail around the world?

  • 3. House sold, price on yacht almost negotiated – just need temporary housing now!

  • 4. Before I sell up and sail away I need to clean out my closet (in many ways)

  • 5. Getting the boat of our dreams – will we or won’t we?

  • 6. Negotiations 56 Oyster Yacht have finished but not without massive pain

  • 7. Everything was going well until we got this phone call…

  • 8. Quick, quick – we need to sell our current boat. We need a place to live. We need to…

  • 9. My new normal and dealing with giving up all our possessions

  • 10. Going from sailing Selene to selling Selene so we could afford to buy our 56′

  • 11. Sea trials and the survey – the night before we meet our dream yacht

  • 12. Hours before we meet our new yacht…our new home!

  • 13. Sea trials on the Oyster 56 were a success – we love her!

  • 14. Getting a yacht lifted out for a Marine Survey

  • Extra: Sell Up and Sail Away Video – Sea Trails & Survey

  • 15. After sea trials and the survey I ran a marathon (accidentally)

  • 16. What does homeschooling, the paleo diet, writing, and photography have to do with sailing?

  • 17. I’m so freaking frustrated – the world is broken

  • 18. Saying goodbye to my old routines and old lifestyle

  • 19. Life has slowed way down – is it the calm before the storm?

  • 20. A lesson on stopping the ‘what-if’s’ from taking over my life!

  • 21. Serious issue – we can’t take our yacht to Barcelona, Spain as planned – YIKES!

  • Extra: Sell Up and Sail Away Video 2 – Our thoughts, feelings and move day!

  • 22. The day before we purchase our 56′ Oyster

  • 23. My first trip on our new yacht – Dolphins included!

  • 24. Feeling excited, sick, and in awe are not mutually exclusive when sailing on the seas

  • 25.Things got worse

  • Extra: Sell Up and Sail Away Video 3 – Palma Mallorca to Gibraltar

  • 26. Sell up and sail away preparations – we successfully took possession of your new yacht

  • 27. Preparation for our around the world sailing trip couldn’t get more exciting!

  • 28. Two months to go before we set sail for our world adventure

  • 29. We got a gun, but not the kind you’re probably thinking of

  • 30. The contrast of sailing around the world and cancer

  • Extra: The reason I decided to sell up and sail away (video)

  • 31. Courses, becoming British, putting our remaining possessions on a pallet and what else?

  • Extra. No – we did not win the lottery!

  • 32. Less than 3 weeks to go before we sail off into the sunset

  • 33. Ten days to go before we set sail on our grand adventure

  • 34. Will this sailing adventure turn me into a dreadlocked, pot smoking, whale saver?

  • 35. In 2 days we will set sail around the world sailing adventure

  • 36. Leaving Gosport England today to start on our around the world sailing adventure

  • 37. Life aboard our new yacht with the BBC, Daily Mail and Times in tow

  • 38. Feeling amazing, scared, overwhelmed and useless

  • 39. Sailing Gibraltar To Malta

  • 40. I’m honoured to introduce Loryn Bennett – Britican’s Chef

  • 41. I still can’t even believe this is happening

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