By far, the biggest question we get asked when we tell people we’re sailing around the world is, ‘But what about your daughter – is she coming with you?’ My husband often replies to that question with, ‘you’re welcome to keep her if you want, but considering she is our child, yes, she’s coming with us!’ We’ve heard often, ‘A boat is no place for a child!’
People are funny. I assumed that the reaction we’d get would be more about our safety or questions as to how the heck we’re paying for this epic trip. I thought people would want to know how we’re doing what we’re doing, but the fact is, since we decided to sell our possessions and buy a 56′ yacht, the majority of questions focus around our 3 year old daughter, Sienna Maddison Brown.
Education and socialization are the biggies
How will Sienna get an education? What will she do about learning social skills? After that, safety is often brought up. People ask, ‘Is it safe for you to sail to certain locations with your daughter? Will she wear a life jacket? Can she swim?’ It’s funny that few people express concern over mine and my hubby’s safety!
And then we get a few questions regarding health risks such as, ‘What happens if Sienna gets sick? What will you do if she needs medical attention? What if she gets Malaria?’
For the most part I think people are genuinely interested, but I can’t help but feel that some of the questions are asked with a tone of condemnation. Friend and family can’t say, or don’t have the courage to say, ‘are you crazy – how irresponsible can you get?’ Of course, I could be way off the mark on this, but I sometimes feel judged when people shout at me, ‘But what about your child?’
Ironically, I think we’re doing the best thing imaginable for our daughter
Not only will we help to educate her through homeschooling, but our family will all be together on an adventure that will enable us to see a massive amount of the amazing world we live in!
Speaking of homeschooling, I must admit that that the whole concept freaked me out at first. I was all set up to send Sienna through the UK schooling system. One month before we decided to sell up and sail away, I was contemplating what school to register her for.
After hubby and I decided to go for our dream and the dust settled a bit, I started to question the whole homeschooling side of things. My initial reaction was, ‘I’m not a teacher! I have no clue about teaching! I can’t teach my daughter!’ I immediately purchased a few homeschooling books – I’m the type of person that buys a book every time I experience a problem. To read about the books I purchased read my journey article: What does homeschooling, the paleo diet, writing, and photography have to do with sailing?
The books helped!
In fact, by the time I read all three of them I was convinced that homeschooling has just as many, if not more, benefits to the standard education system. I also grew in confidence about ways to teach. There are two extremes. Some parents teach just like teachers in a school. They have time tables, workbooks, etc and follow the school ciriculum to the exact syllabus. The other extreme are parents that go with the flow and find teaching lessons in association to what the child is currently interested in.
For example, if your child is into dolls houses right now, you can create learning opportunities around the dolls house. You think about, English, Math, Science, History and work it into playing. If I wanted to teach Sienna about colors, we could name the colors in the house. If I wanted to teach her history, we could put on a historical play with the dolls.
I’m not sure what approach will take – we’ll probably sit in the middle and do both structured and unstructured learning
The key thing is that after a bit of education I now feel completely confident in my abilities to teach my daughter.
And as for the education board, when we called up to tell them what we’re doing, they said just register Sienna in school when you return to the UK. My husband was shocked. They didn’t want to know our names, what we were planning on teaching – nothing. Since Sienna isn’t in the system yet, there’s no need to tell the system what she’s doing. Interesting – eh?
Socialization is the other big issue that most people mention
And I must admit that it was a concern of mine too. How will a 3 year old get on in the world of socializing when she’s stuck with mom and dad on a boat? Well…from what I’ve read, children that spend more time with adults (eg. homeschooled kids) actually tend to have more advanced social skills. Rather than learning both the good and bad traits from their school peers homeschooled children mature a bit quicker. Let’s face it, Sienna is less likely to be a bully, be bullied, act immature (for her age) or be mean. She won’t learn anti-social behaviours because hubby and I are not anti-social.
Furthermore, just because we’re going to live on a boat doesn’t mean that we’re isolated. In fact, we’ll have more of a social life than most! We’ll meet other boaters during our travels in addition to thousands of locals. We’ll go to playgrounds, visit attractions and we’ll be out and about all the time. Also, there are activity clubs for kids at the major marinas and there’s a massive international homeschooling network providing several opportunities for us to introduce Sienna to other children. (It’s actually a great way for hubby and I to make new friends too!)
And what about the risks?
What about pirates, being so close to water all the time, storms, tidal waves, human sized squid, killer sharks, back flipping boat smashing wales, the Bermuda Triangle, capsizing possibilities, foreign bacteria, health issues, blood sucking leaches, jelly fish stings or collisions?
Hmmmmm, yes those are risks but let’s compare them to ‘normal’ day to day living.
I bet that doing the daily school run is a higher risk than all the risks associated to sailing. Or, in other words, I bet that there are more fatalities caused by car crashes than all the fatalities caused by living on a boat.
Furthermore, it’s not like we simply decided to sail around the world and haven’t prepared for it. Both hubby and I have taken engine, First Aid, medical, and several sailing courses. We’ll never be able to prepare for everything, but we’ve definitely taken the risks associated to sailing very seriously.
And as for the pirates, we’ll never go anywhere near them!
In regards to the medical side of things, we’ve purchased thousands of pounds/dollars worth of medical equipment and drugs. Furthermore, we’ve learned how to use the equipment! On board, we have observational equipment including blood pressure apperatus, stethoscope, thermometer, pulse taker, pee strips, pen light, and ear/nose/mouth instruments. We also are carrying a variety of drugs that will help in an emergency. For example, we have the antibiotic that is needed to combat meningitis and the drug that prevents secondary drowning. We also have the amazing substance created during the Gulf War that forces blood to clot (for massive artery bleeds).
And after much debate, we also purchased a heart defibrillator. (Read my article about that here: Carrying a Defibrillator aboard our yacht – Is it really necessary?).
So, is a boat no place for a child? No way!
Photograph by Eneka StewartÂ
John Nevill says
Taking a three-year-old on a boat, surrounded by water, away from the UK, are you reckless? Introducing them to nature and encouraging them to be independent, are you mad? Don’t you realise that British children are meant to be dumped in nursery class as soon as mum can get rid of them, crammed with 35 other kids during school hours and plonked in front of a screen, any screen (iPad, laptop, TV) for the hours between school and bed before turning into socially inept sullen teenagers unable to engage with anybody face-to-face?
Seriously, what a fantastic opportunity and exciting time for your family. Good to see such adventurous spirit. I’m sure your daughter will remember it for the rest of her life and she will be a better person for it.
Happy sailing.
Kim Brown says
Hey John! At first I thought you were yelling at me but then I started to smile. You’re so right!!! It is an excellent opportunity and I am definitely going to make the most of it – that’s for sure. I hope all is well in your world. Big smiles 🙂
Jo says
A lovely, inspirational article 🙂 We are currently living aboard a 50ft yacht with our nearly 2 year old daughter. Although we’ve not given up the day jobs for an extended sail yet, that is our intention so I will follow your blog with interest! The prospect of homeschooling is really exciting but I’ve no idea of the logistics for us as yet…
Happy sailing!
Kim Brown says
Hey Jo! Thank you for getting in touch. Great news about your intensions. I must say that it’s not an easy decision to make…HOWEVER, once you make it the world seems to conspire to make it happen. Don’t worry too much about the homeschooling side of things. I can let you know what books are good and then give you the full heads-up on what we’re doing it. I’m now 100% convinced that I couldn’t be doing anything more amazing for my daughter. The whole adventure and homeschooling side of things is seriously the best decision I’ve ever made. Big smiles 🙂
Lesley Evans says
Oh wow! What an awesome adventure you are all on 🙂 Your little girl is so lucky, hope the weather is giving you all plain sailing right now.
Kim Brown says
Hey Lesley! Thank you for commenting 🙂 Yes – our daughter, Sienna, is a very lucky girl…if only she knew how lucky she was. We had a rough ride from Gibraltar to Malta but I wouldn’t have changed it – the adventure has begun! Woooooo woooooo. 🙂
Lilia Sinclair says
Hi Kim, I am a friend of Mikes, I met your husband Simon last night with him and LOVE what you are doing. Would love to meet up with you guys, can give Sienna a wee tour of Sliema and take her to meet some of my friends kids if she would enjoy that.
My no is 99603080 came round this morning, flip flop broke on route so was later than expected and could not see anyone aboard.
Good live music in Black Gold tonight if you fancy a walk its 10 mins from the Marina.
Look forward to hearing all you chat.
Llilia
Kim Brown says
Hey Lililia!!! We’re so sorry we missed you. We waited around until 10ish but didn’t think you were going to show up. We’ll be around all weekend if you want to walk down. On Monday Simon and I are going to Valetta but Loryn and Sienna will be hanging out in Sliema. I would LOVE to introduce Sienna to some other children. She’s had quite a bit of adult time…although, I must say she’s having a blast. Yesterday, she played in the water fountains in Valletta and then Loryn helped her swim in the Med! So…come on down – you know where we are 🙂 Big smiles, Kim
Verona says
Hi Kim! You know my feelings on the subject! “Hang on and enjoy the ride!” I feel so lucky when I have children on board. Learning opportunities for both young and old. Another month before we are in the water, and 4-yr old Layton washed down the whole cockpit for me the other day. Detergent, a bit of rain water left in the cockpit and a sponge makes a wonderful science project. “Nana, why do get so much bubbles with not very much water????” “Nana, why are all the bubbles white????” Nana, why do bubbles make things clean????”